“You must be kidding, you aren’t hot enough (or skinny enough) to play Nikita.”
“I’m too short. Why wasn’t I born two inches taller”
“Awe man, they’ll hate my accent”
Yeah there we have it. The fateful five. Which come in a variety of evil variations and mood swings. And please note I didn’t even come up with these bad boys on my own. I asked around and had fellow actors offer their worst negative thoughts.
It is sad isn’t it. To know we shouldn’t think this way but and yet be absolutely helpless at defeating the evil head voices from acting hell which conspire to destroy our confidence and inner glory!!
Tempted as I am to suggest you should just wait until it blows over, this little cowgirl knows that’s not actually the best way to turn that frown upside down.
Last year while back in Australia I had one of these days. I met up with one of my best girlfriends and we talked about my troubles. We had both studied Psychology at the same uni so, really, if anyone should know about this sort of thing it was she. And in a flood of tears and desperation I looked at her and said “but what do I do?” to which she replied, “You have to funk your way out of the funk.” It was perfect, eloquent and timeless.
I actually did that. I decided at that precise moment as I started to giggle, that I had to make myself happy. No one else would help and the only person allowing the defeatist attitude to reign supreme was me. It was my inability to address and action the things that were getting me down that was really the issue. And as each new problem built up on top of the last it made it seem as if I could never fix any of them.
But how does this relate to us as actors?
You have to ask yourself what is actually making you sad and if you can do anything about the outcome. Consider what has happened over the last day that has spun your centre out of whack and made you feel unbalanced. Did the bus driver ignore you and drive off or were you just late for the bus. Did you not get that role you desperately wanted, or is it that you really didn’t do the prep you should have. Are you feeling you aren’t nailing your auditions and getting the roles because they don’t appreciate your talent or is it that you haven’t taken the time to get new headshots or practice your craft regularly.
If push comes to shove and we are honest with ourselves often our own sense of failure to-date with acting is derived from something we aren’t doing. And this in turn leads us to have a down day. When we put in the hard yards it all falls info place. Auditions seem like a walk in the park and we don’t cringe every time we send our up-to-date headshot out.
- Reading a script
- Looking for a new photographer for new headshots
- Doing an acting session with a friend
- Taping yourself on tape doing the new monologue you’re working on
- Updating your online CVs
- Emailing a director you met at last week’s networking event.
So get out there and funk your way out of the funk. You’re a babe.