So you have these wicked friends of yours and they are nailing it…they’re getting the gigs, getting the twitter followers, getting paid for their acting services, getting seen for bigger jobs and more and more and more. And then they see you and all they do is complain about their lack of everything. And you’re stuck sitting there thinking “Really!”
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It’s a sad state of affairs when the acting person(s) who is more successful than you at the moment, who
is booking more work than you are at the moment, who is getting better results in auditions than you are at the moment and who is with a bigger agent, is complaining. **Note I said “at the moment”. Eternity is a long time and you just don’t know when your turn is up.
Take stock of this moment. Have a good honest heartfelt think… perhaps you do the same to someone else who isn’t quite as accomplished as you are. Ever considered that? What if Josey-New-Actor-Girl in London is hanging off your every word and she notices when you complain about how quiet the industry is and how few auditions you are securing. Uh oh! Are you doing it too?
You must surround yourself in an environment of conscious thought and words that support how truly wonderful things are going. And if they aren’t going that well, then fake it until they do.
Ever the great believer that what you put out into the world, you get back, I honestly think that if you allow yourself to spend copious amounts of time complaining about your lack of opportunities, agent support, Casting Director meetings, prices of courses and lack of auditions, you will draw that into your circle. And when a friend who looks up to you, as someone they aspire to be like, hears these words chances are they are also taking in that energy.
My agent and I had a meeting recently where I said quite earnestly “well it’s okay, it’s pretty quiet at the moment from what I’m hearing from other actors”, to which my agent replied “Angela, it’s never not busy.” Queue – shock horror gasp. They went on to elaborate that basically there is always work, just not always work for me, or roles that are suitable for me. I stopped and took stock of this and realised they were absolutely right. Channing Tatum was just here filming as are a number of other huge stars. There are constantly movies, television and theatre auditions. I know of three different groups currently in talks about their television series and concepts. So with that in mind, it probably is best I not be saying that there is no work or that it’s quiet. If the castings aren’t finding me, it’s up to me to find them, or to create opportunities.
Be very aware that every time you say something about the way someone else chooses to go about their business, if it is a negative judgement it can have a very negative connotation for both them and you. I loved when I read recently in a raptitude.com post that there is no such thing as a “realist”. They’re just pessimists hiding under a lovely little veil of fake mediocre middledom (they are my own words, not verbatim). Get out from under a rock. Acting is not an industry where negativity will get you anywhere. It’s just not. If you believe that your little sour faced whining is going to help, you are sadly mistaken. Best you turn that frown upside down. Every actor in life made it, regardless of race, age, size, hair colour, connections or money. You can’t buy consistent success. But you can buy a consistently good attitude. You buy it from yourself.
So next time your successful whiny friend complains about their “lack of everything acting”, rather than giving them a virtual kick in the shins, why not share all the great things you have been hearing about. Get them back in the frame of mind where we celebrate all that is good in the acting world. And if nothing else, you’ll be channeling the mental goodness rather than taking their negativity on board. Surround yourself in an invisible cloak of optimistic gratitude and you will be pleasantly surprised by the outcome B.A.B.E.s!